Dreaming Kevin: The Path to Healing is the compelling story of a bereaved mother in search of her son in the dreamtime. Carla Blowey shares her quest to interpret an ominous dream predicting the death of her five-year-old son Kevin, just hours before he died in a bicycle accident. This living nightmare heralds the many numinous dreams and synchronistic events offering her forgiveness, healing, spiritual growth, and new life. Weaving excerpts from her personal dream journal throughout this intimate narrative, Carla shares her most desperate moments in grief, and her extraordinary encounters with Kevin in the dreamtime.
First published in 2002, this 2014 expanded edition, includes an Afterword from Carla proposing the idea that our dreams reveal the hidden issues that block the path of healing during a range of life transitions from birth to death. Carla challenges grievers to ask, "How is our perception of grief and loss inhibiting healing in our lives?" "What are the real messages illustrated in our dreams?" “What does it really mean to be healed?” Dream work is a transformative tool for bringing our dreams of the night into the light to see them differently, enabling us to develop creative solutions for our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being in the waking world.
Quite unexpectedly, a subsequent section titled, “Notes from the Children” evolved while Carla was writing the Afterword. Carla realized that the children who experienced Kevin’s death first hand, and those who experienced it through their parents or from a distance, shared a bond not only with Kevin but also with one another. She wondered, "What is their perspective of this life-changing event in their youth now that they are young adults and parents?” Carla interviewed Kevin's sister, Amber, and the children of Dreaming Kevin. For many, it was the first time they had shared their memories about Kevin’s death, and the grief they still held in their heart. The result is an astounding unedited, spontaneous, and universal dialogue on their silent and unseen grief. In a surprise ending, Dreaming Kevin comes full circle with an amazing gift from Kevin to Amber…23 years later.
Jeremy Taylor, D. Min.
1948 - 2018
Carla Blowey's journey into the world of dreams, parental grief, and the realms of reconciliation and healing beyond these thresholds, is truly moving, profound, and of great value to anyone, whether or not they have had similar experiences in the waking world. Dreaming Kevin is a work of grace, skill, and dedication to the deeper truth - it is not to be missed! ~ Jeremy Taylor, D. Min.
Author, "Where People Fly and Water Runs Uphill", Co-founder and Past President of the International Association for the Study of Dreams, (IASD), Founder-Director of the MarinC Institute for Projective Dream Work, (MIPD), Member of the Board of Unitarian Universalist Society for Community Ministries (UUSCM). www.jeremytaylor.com
I am deeply grateful for the gift Jeremy was to me as a dream worker, a mentor, and a friend in my dream work practice and my life. I began following Jeremy on the recommendation of a mutual friend several years before I met him at a dream workshop in Boulder. On that first meeting he welcomed me as a fellow dreamworker despite my inexperience – it was as though I had come home. Soon after, I completed the course to become a certified dream work facilitator under Jeremy’s tutelage at the Marin Institute of Projective Dream Work.
Jeremy’s rich insight and wisdom about dreams came through in every one of our dream work sessions, and his generous, compassionate feedback knew no bounds as a mentor and as a friend. My favorite phrase of Jeremy’s was when, in offering challenging feedback of the utmost depth, he would preface it with… “knowing my friend Carla, I must say…”. I am so grateful for Jeremy’s unwavering support in my work in using dreams as a tool for healing through loss and transition with the bereaved. He was instrumental in encouraging and supporting me to write the expanded edition of my book and presenting dream workshops for the bereaved. I am forever grateful to Jeremy, for helping me to see my dreams, my dream work practice, and ultimately myself differently with love and compassion. ~ Carla Blowey